My Life

My husband deployed in March, and I was told to keep busy while he was gone to make the time pass, and you know it's the truth. I have been so busy before I know it my husband will return to me in a month for R&R. I am so excited to have him back if only it is for 2 weeks. Lets see where to begin..lol

May- I have done several things in May to include working, taking care of 3 children, running a community based group, and bowling in Tourniments around the united states. This month I believe I went to Salina Kansas to bowl.

June- Well same as above excpet I have started bowling Summer Leagues (2) on two of my days off...Wednesday and Friday. I also bowled in a tourniment in Springfield Missouri. I have taken Jasmine to go stay with Kevin for a few months :( But I am coping! I bought another Cadillac.. a CTS to be exact! I love it!

July- Well its only the beginning and I have just dropped Kayden off to go stay with David for a few weeks. I just came back from a 4 day Tourniment in El Paso Texas. This one was big...2010 Women's USBC National Championships. So far I have won $220 in Brackets and I am waiting to see where I placed. So far thats all I have..

So I have had a busy month and it's only the 20th..lol Well they did say keeping busy was the best thing to do during a deployment. I think it a little too literal. Anywho in the begining of the month My group sponsered 3 teens to go to prom and that was a hit! They were all dressed up (we provided almost everything), they had professional portraits done, a dinner, and a ride to prom in my Escalade ( all the limos were booked :( ), so that went great! Then I had my bowling tourniment on the 15th of May, well I bowled like crap but I had fun, and I have never been to Springfield MO before so it was a new experience. While I was there I got a new tattoo, because I get one from every state that I go to, so it was prime time to get one. I ended up getting it in a spot that is known to be tender but I didn't feel a difference. Its pretty :) Also I am going to be getting a new Cadillac CTS! I am soooo stoked. My hubby and I were looking at trucks and decided because we already have the Escalade that we bought in the begining of the year we should just go ahead and get a car....my dream car! God how I love cadillacs...I think that will be my nest tattoo :) Anywho, I found out some disturbing news about some of the wives whose hubbys just left. I cannot say how it sickens me that they cannot wait until their spouse gets back to take care of their "needs" so to speak. I just want to slap them!!!! Ugh stupid Army Wives that cheat give us good wives a bad name! Oh also I found out when Tony is having his R&R Wohoo!!! Now, I need to get off here...need to get some more paperwork done for the new caddy..it will be here in 12 days!!! YES!!!

I tend to believe I lead a very good life. I have been through the ringer with life changing experience that it has taught me to look at new ones in a new light. Unfortunately the people my age and even older have not experienced the things I have, and those that have are very few and far between. It is hard for me to have common ground with allot of ladies around here but the ones I have met and have been wonderful to me are just awesome! Don't get me wrong, I have met a few that I thought were cool, but two three weeks down the road its "what can you do for me" type of friendship, and honestly I am not down for that. I feel like here lately I am being walked on. I have weeded out the bad and dealing with some of the ones in perspective. My down fall is I am too nice. Now when you are looking at me I know you are probably thinking, tattoos and piercings...no way! Well that's what you get for being stereotypical. I can be mean but if we develop a friendship it is allot harder to tell you how I feel in fear of hurting your feelings. So it just fumes and fumes until one day I explode! I know that's not a healthy way of doing things but I am working on it. After all I have to think of my family and that we come first. I would give my last dollar to the right cause, and sometimes that gets me in trouble! I am learning to deal with that as well. I just get all wound up with trying to make things perfect ( I'm OCD) it's in my nature, that I get carried away and it ends up biting me in the ass later! Over the past few weeks I have learned that I will meet people that just want to be friends with me for money, or to use me, and then there are those real friends that stick by you and are there for you when you are down. Like I said they are very few and far in between but they do exist! When you live in a world where you move at the drop of a dime, and have to make friends in different states as you handle and juggle all the stresses of the military you get good at it. You develop this kind of 6 Th sense that most people don't have. You gain the ability to see people for what they are without having to hang around long enough to get screwed! I have learned allot of things being a military wife and I wouldn't change it. Hell I probably know more regs then people in the actual military :) Sad because I have had to look them up from experience but I will fight for my family and for my friends! It just struck me as odd that there are not that many honest people left in the world today. I don't know if it is because the lack of morals they were brought up with or that they just don't care. All I can say is Karma! I am happy I am raising my children with standards and morals and that I have every bit of confidence that they will grow up to be respectable adults when entering the "real" world!

I know I have been ranting for a while, just some things to ponder I guess, that's what blogs are for right?

On the upside my husband and I are doing great! He keeps me strong everyday. Sure we have our ups and downs but all together we have develops a bond like no other. We have been through tough times and I can honestly say it has brought me closer to my man. I have full trust for him and would do anything for him. Its so rare that you see couples that start out from nothing, and have people creating drama striving for you not to be together, and end up as happy as we are!

I remember when I was a single mother of two kids driving a beat up Saturn working almost 7 days a week as a security officer just so that I could cover rent and food. In Hawai'i no less! Its been 5 years since my hero found me and swept me off my feet. Now I live in a home with lots of great things that make a house a home, family pictures, a full fridge, and a comfy bed. I am driving an nice truck and I appreciate everyday what I have! I know what its like to have nothing. It baffles me to see women complain of how rough they have it while driving their nice car, and living in a paid for house, and then turning around and cheating on the same person who provided all of it. Baffles me really! They don't know what rough is! Or when I hear some 21 year old guy detesting a baby and saying he isn't ready and that he is sure it isn't his even though he has paternity papers. I was 16 when I got pregnant and raised my son alone. No child support from the dad, he wasn't ready either. I told him to embrace the life he was given and take care of his child, that tomorrow could be his last day, and if he wanted to leave this world as a dead beat. He came in the bar the other day to show me pictures of his kid :) He is an active dad now. People down bartenders even though we do give some insightful advice! Well some of us anyway..lol. Ok I think I am done rambling off any little thing that comes to mind..lol sorry had a rough day today...can you tell?

Well its almost 4am and I am still up. After and exhausting day all I want is to sleep, but I fear that I might suffer from insomnia. I stay up at all hours of the night all the time. I don't have issues staying asleep its just getting to sleep. I just have so many things going through my head at night that I stay awake thinking and analyzing the day.

Like today, I was out the door at noon or so to get to the prom set up for ♥ D.R.E.A.M ♥ and that went until 6pm, only for me to rush back to my house and get dinner for the kids and Kelly only to then turn around and get dressed for my PBA proam tourniment. Then after that I had to pick up the students and drop them off. I then headed home. I am EXHAUSTED!! I just wish I could sleep is all.

I am very open to all kinds of music, I see it as a way to express myself in soo many ways. I don't know many other people that view music the same way. I know people listen to the words, and the beat but the question is can they relate to what the singer/songwriter is talking about? I know a few people that view music the same way I do and its awesome that we can play songs and tell what each other is feeling just by listening to the song. Sorry it was on my mind and had to blog about it..lmao

Ok so My buddy Christina and I came up with this awesome plan to have a poker night. Just a few of our friends and buddies. Well its A character party..lol We are talking, poker table, costumes, drinks, cigars the whole 9! Well we are going to go to Salina on Friday to see about the costumes, and some part supplies, as well as a poker table. Then after we get back I have to take Kayden to get some shoes, and a watch...then its off to Watch the new freddie movie..I am sooo stoked! We will have about 10 people involved in this poker party but its going to be soo much fun! Then Saturday I am helping with getting the kids ready to go to prom. After that I am going to get ready to go bowl with the PBA pro's!!! I am excited about that. Well off my soap box back to reality.

Well I feel really good today. I went to manhattan and helped a student from the high school pick out her jewelry and makeup for prom. My group DREAM provided the fund for her to be able to go to prom. Doing this now with her, made me realize how expensive its going to be when my children go...but I am looking forward to it none the less.

I learned a lesson today. Where ever there is succsess, there will be haters. I am still in the works of learning on how to deal with it. I guess I never figured why people would dislike people that work hard to get what they want. Maybe because I don't dislike anyone for being good at what they do, instead I try and learn from it, to help myself out in the future. I envy people who have it made, some have it made from the start, and others work their ass off to get where they are. Granted I have more respect for the ones that work for it, but thats just me.

I am finding myself grow as a person more and more each year. I look at people my age and realize that I am more mature, not because I chose to be, but because the experiences I have had in life. I like it, I don't mind but it does make it hard to find someone my age to relate with. Most of my friends are 30+. Not that its a bad thing, I envy them for going through their life and sharing their experiences.

Well My husband is doing good overseas. As best as to be expected. I miss him more and more each day. You know most people complain about deployments, I guess I look at it as it makes your marriage stronger. I know, I know I don't like deployments but through it all you have to find the positive or you will never get through it.

I miss my mother as well, she is overseas too, as well as my uncle. Go figure they would send all my family to Iraq/ Afghanistan all at the same time. I am used to it though, the Army is my way of life, and I know it can be hard but there are alot of great things that come from it too. I just wish everyone else around me would see that. I always get "aww you poor thing", my response it "don't feel sorry for me, feel sorry for the families that don't have support".

Well I need to get off here, I have laundry and dinner to finish up.

Well most of you know that My husband deployed March 08, 2010. This is not our first deployment but it feels just the same. I understand he has a job to do and I respect him for doing it. I have been with my husband for 5 years. I am dedicated to my family. This is all just so stressful. Being without my rock, and having to take on all that I do. I must admit though, I keep busy and the time seems to fly faster then last deployment. I also decided to stay in Kansas for this deployment rather then moving somewhere I am more familiar with. No more running, time to settle in and claim this as our home for the remainder of our time here. The kids and I are well rooted here. They are doing well in school, and I have my job and My Group. Its funny how much my perspective has changed on life in general these past few years. I have had a hard life, but it all seems so easy now. My children are beautiful, my husband and I are doing better then ever, and for once in my life I can say I am not worried about anything. Sure there are the small thing like, what am I going to have for dinner...lol but those things are tiny compared to what I am used to. I like this state of life, a girl can get used to this. The only thing I worry about is my husbands saftey. I know he is a smart, strong man, and I just want him home with me :)

This was posted by Rhianna Nelson the creator of Faith Hope Love.

4/27/2010

Just Hit the Delete Button!
Where to start this post? I know I will probably get some hate mail or whatever for this, but its coming out and I cant stop it!I've come to realize that no matter what there is always that person or group of people that always know everything, and think they are better than the next person. I cant stand it that some people have a stick up their butt and think they are so much smarter, prettier, or more successful than others, yes this may be true since we are all different but they shouldn't make people feel bad or rub it in. I have also had enough of the crap that they call RUG. Its the same thing every week, the same topics come up and the same stupid drama each month. Its old and stupid. This is why I have removed myself of the crap! Then the good 'ol DREAM VS. FHL battle. Maybe its just me but this is really stupid! Why is it that "they" think that there group is so much different than ours? In reality it is quite the same, FHL has done a benefit sale for a child with a disease, we have done get together with food involved, we reach out to our community and host PLAYDATES! Oh wait that is the only thing that we do NOT have in common with DREAM, We host weekly playdates! Dream has done the Benefit sale, get together with food involved (They just call it a recipe swap) and what have they done for the community as a whole? Maybe I have missed this but helping 3 girls go to prom doesn't do crap for the community....it just heightens the High School experience. But there defense to this question is Well we plan to help Pregnant teens, or Adopt A grandparent.....what does this have to do for the community??? Absolutely nothing....its helps those 2 categories Pregnant Teens and Old People....its nice and I salute them for helping but maybe with the Teens they should advocate Abstinence or Education on Safe Sex??? How about offer free condoms, or other forms of birth control, offer advice and guidance to end the cycle of teen pregnancy? Junction City has the Highest Teen Pregnancy rate in KS, do something to offer teens other options then having sex, because if they know they can just get help from this one group then why not do it?They will also say that Dream is better or different because they want to become a NON Profit, and become National....sorry but when did recipe swaps become material for being a non profit? Guess what Ladies there is probably a group of FB doing the EXACT same thing you are in another Town...Guess what there are 13537873 groups on FACEBOOK and probably ran the same way as yours....Oh Wait that is FHL!Maybe I am bitter, or stressed...or could just care less cause you are not pulling the wool over my eyes...I give it 2 more months before they are worn out and dwindling down, because you cannot run a non profit with 2 people! Let alone a facebook group with 5 active members and 93 inactive ones....Make that 92 :)This plus the annoyance of FB status' of how immature "someone" is or "if you have something to say then say it" and the "OMG KISS MY ASS CAUSE I'M AMAZING" I have deleted a few more off the friends list....because you haven't added shit to my life so poof you are gone, just hit the delete button!I have come to realize who my friends are, and who just wants me to be a number on their group. I rather have 5 amazing close friends then 93 acquaintances that only want my friendship when its a convince to them.
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Now let me fill you in on my take on this. I am the creator of ♥ D.R.E.A.M ♥ . I am not mad nor upset. Most of your probably think I should be but then again I am different. When I first read this I was confused. I never knew a problem existed. I created this group before hers was created, before "anna" was apart of RUG Girls, a group that did get togethers and Ladies night out. I quit the group because I wanted to make a change, so Kris and I created ♥ D.R.E.A.M ♥ We are a group that helps our community. Mind you We cannot save the world. We are NOT a Non for profit org that gets grants, so everything we do comes out of pocket, or is money we have raised. Yes I am proud of what we have achieved in such little time, and how much of an impact we have had on other lives. We have an ACTIVE count of 94 members who show their support, time and effort everyday. We don't expect people to make every event, we know they have lives and families they want to embrace. That's how we differ! We take what we can get but we will get the job done. We recognize that our Group is not the only group on FB, nor in this town. Also I believe it only takes one person to make a difference. So it doesn't matter what "anna" says about my group, the only reaction I will ever give her, is the right one. I don't dwell on DRAMA, and if you are in our group you know there are certain standards we have, and drama is not aloud! I take pride in everything I do, I don't think I am better then anyone else. I welcome new people into my life. I know that our group is full of people from different walks of life. I am proud of that. I am married to a wonderful man who is serving in Iraq, all the while holding down a job, taking care of 3 kids, 2 Great Danes, 75 fish, and my sister. Oh and we must not forget ♥ D.R.E.Am. ♥ . The only feeling I have is sorrow for "anna" . Maybe one day she will see exactly how shallow this blog was. I would never intentionally put someone down, especially with them having no clue there was an issue in the first place. If you were the adult you say you are, why would you blog about it, and not talk to me like and adult would have? I know you follow my blog, and are probably itching for a response. Well here you have it. I don't hate you, I am not upset with you, if anything I feel sorry for you.

I am a pretty down to earth person, I'd like to think anyways. I guess I just don't understand why people have to bring people down or start drama for the fun of it. I am a straight shooter and yes I will say the first thing that pops into my head, but I don't pick random people and down them, or constantly start shit with people so that I can feel some kind of attention weather it be good or bad. I don't know. I also don't get why people that have it great think they live a rough life. Especially if they have been in worse situations then they have been. I have allot on my mind but most of all I am worried for my husband. He is getting ready to go on yet another deployment and his company is really unorganized, and treating him like crap. He is less then 30 days out from deployment and they are constantly making him work, and sending him away for days at a time. I know its the military, I get that but last deployment when he was in a different company things were way different. He was treated with respect and given some time to spend with his family before 15 months of being gone. I try and respect his wishes by not saying anything and letting him deal with it (as a military wife he is accountable for what I say). It is very hard for me since I am VERY outspoken, and even then that is an understatement. I feel like I am getting screwed over in the process, as well as my children. I am supposed to stick up for them, be the voice that they can't express yet right? Well I have decided to go and approach the commander tomorrow. I will be civil but I expect the same in return. Once I am disrespected it becomes a whole other issue. I love my husband and I want to do right by him, and I feel like I am doing nothing by sitting here just watching as he is constantly cut down, disrespected, and belittled by his superiors. Enough is enough! I will fill you guys in on what happens later.

On another note my bestie, has had some issues and I am not sure how I want to handle them as far as my input and how I am involved. I have never felt like I have now, and I don't know how to approach it without pissing her off, or losing a friend. Just another life lesson I guess.

I bowled my first bowling tournament and did great! my two highest scores were 193, and a 200! Woot go me!!! lol. I won $180 and a whole crap load of free food coupons from various vendors around town. I am set to have my next tournament next month. I have every Friday on league to help me get ready for it.

My children are doing well, they are happy and content with things. Spoiled as all get out..lol.

Anyways I am going to bed for the night. Hopefully I will keep this thing updated more often..lol
Night~